Choices

A terrific blogger, Chatty Crone, wrote about finding happiness and humor in her life. Her entries are here and here.  Some of what she wrote struck the idle thoughts swimming around in my head, thoughts I was contemplating as a post but hadn't zeroed in on yet. Chatty drew the bullseye for me.

I truly believe we can and must choose happiness and humor in our lives. Why wouldn't we want to embrace these and other healthy attitudes? We make choices all day long. Coffee or iced tea? A walk after dinner or reading on the porch? Carry a grudge or move on?

I am not so good natured or thick skinned that I never feel snubbed or insulted, but the older I get, the less I choose to feel that way. I express surprise, dismay and maybe even anger to hubby or trusted close friends who know me well enough to recognize I am venting and usually letting go at the same time. If a close friend or relative does or says something hurtful, of course I feel that and it is worse than if a stranger does the same. We have expectations that those who are close to us value and protect our relationship and feelings. 

Those instances are vastly different from the person who cuts you off in traffic. Did they truly intend to be a jerk? Did they simply not realize what they were doing and are to make eye contact and mouth an apology? How did you react? Did you hit your horn, say something out loud or shake your head in wonder or disgust? I've done all of those things. I think those are normal reactions at that moment.

Haven't you known someone who carries that as a personal attack throughout the day, ready to tell anyone who will listen about the jerk who ruined their day? With each retelling of the event, the intensity of the attack grows. That jerk could have caused a collision! Could have made them late for work! Could have killed them!  Yes, all of that could have happened, but didn't. Let it go. Breathe. Be glad you were paying attention and prevented any harm. Whether that person was a jerk or just made a bad move, will this matter two hours or ten years from now? You can spend your day growling about that stupid driver but chances are, no matter what their motivation was, they have gotten on with their life and your mutterings aren't hurting them one bit. You are the one suffering because you are keeping the turmoil brewing.

A homeowner on our street was awakened by conversation and laughter of her neighbors across the street. Did she go over, call out the window or call them on the phone and say "hey guys, could you lower your voices a little? I'm trying to sleep and sound is really carrying tonight"? No she didn't. She didn't call the police to make a complaint either. This wasn't a party, just a few couples talking outside on a hot night in suburbia. What she did was go on Facebook the next morning and write paragraphs about what jerks her neighbors are and ended with the line that they should shut the f--k up. Wasn't that classy? It didn't quiet the neighbors who had no idea their voices were bothering her. To be that upset the next day and to express herself as she did doesn't show a fundamentally happy person, or one with any tolerance and most of all, one who doesn't handle a situation in a mature manner.

Comedian Ron White, part of the Blue Collar Comedy Tour, uses the tag line "You can't fix stupid". While I don't advise saying this to someone's face, sometimes you have accept this as true with people who repeatedly react inappropriately. Often you can choose to avoid them. If they are relatives or coworkers and therefore unavoidable, you need to remind yourself that who they are, what they do, and how think act does not define you.

Choose to smile and laugh a little.You'll feel better.





But if someone is really ticking you off, I could show you how to mold their likenesses in chocolate so that you can bite their head off. If that act of aggression doesn't help, the chocolate consumption surely will.

Read any marquees lately?

Are movies too explicit and violent, or is it just the marquees?

As infrequently as we go to the movies, I have no idea what pairings might line up unfortunately (or humorously) this weekend.

I'd love to see Harry Potter, but I think we'll wait for the newness to wear off. There are many rude people who talk or text throughout movies and that bugs us. The last two times we went to the show, we went late in the evening. Both times there were couples with infants, toddlers and children! Not only were the movies inappropriate for their ages, why weren't those kiddies in bed?

If you agree and want to enjoy the show amid quiet folks like us, we'll save seats for you. I'll be in the turquoise outfit with white trim, hubby will be wearing a lavender shirt with his good suit.  

Feelin' Good at the Clark Retirement Community

Here is the background story on the retirement center and the making of this clip: Click here

Don't you love seeing people having a good time?

An apple a day is ok, but not two for a kitten...

Hoorah for Photobucket Support!

Yesterday I lamented having computer issues again, this time a problem with Photobucket not showing any of my images and that I don't like the changes to Blogger.

First, about Photobucket (PB)  They are huge. I have free accounts with them. I did not expect to hear from them quickly, assuming a free account is low priority to them. I sent them an email Wednesday late afternoon and received a reply Friday afternoon with a suggestion and a few questions. Their first suggestion (clearing cookies and cache) did not help. I answered their questions on Friday and heard from them again this morning. They had more questions and asked for a screenshot so that they could see what I was seeing. They included directions on how to capture a screenshot in case I had not done that before.

I replied and was about to email a friend to say that I hope some progress would be made when I got another email from them. Was it possible that I had told Firefox to block images from PB? My reaction was to say of course not....but that is exactly what had happened! A simple flip of a switch from Block to Allow and all was well again in my little world!

I thanked them profusely, offering roses, chocolate or cash but warned them that cash would look suspiciously like Monopoly money. I got another instant response! The appreciated my humor, were glad all was well again and said that this sometimes happens with Firefox because an accidental right click during some operations will send a block message.

It says a lot about customer support these days that I am so excited to give you positive feedback from my PB experience, but there it is. We all have ugly stories of dealing with support teams that are anything but supportive.

Now about Blogger. I've heard from more than a few Blogger users that they haven't noticed any changes.  This is what my screen looks like when I choose New Post. I don't have a photo of the old view, but it was quite different from this.

Is this going to ruin my day? No, but it did startle me coming in conjunction with the PB problem. It might be just me, but I felt that I could arrange photos more easily with the old Blogger, the one from before the new template designs were given to us. Now if I want three small photos to appear in a horizontal row, I have to put them into a graphics program that does that.

I am still running XP as my operating system so Live Writer isn't an option for me. I can't justify changing systems just to support my blogging habit...not yet anyway.

Am I a curmudgeon?

Am I becoming a cantankerous, surly, difficult grouch? 

I hope not. For those of you using Blogger, do you like the changes? This is my first post since the change so I can't address usability yet, but I don't like the looks of the dashboard or new post screens.

This is hitting me at a bad time as I am having problems with Photobucket. My computer tech thinks the problem is at their end and I suspect Photobucket is going to say it is my computer. I won't bore you with the details but it is frustrating me. A lot.

I have friends with serious problems so this is silly of me. Maybe not being able to alleviate worries and cure their ills is the thorn that is causing my Photobucket problems to fester.

I would like to hear how others feel about the changes in Blogger and if you switched from Blogger to Wordpress or another format, how did you choose your new home and what do you miss about Blogger? As much as I like to make surface changes which I equate to moving furniture and home decor around, actual packing up and moving isn't something I do willingly.

The rest of my life is good, very good, but the blogging part of me is in a funk.

Please send advice.

Or chocolate.

Or both.

Happy Independence Day!

I know it may not be Independence Day for everyone, but I think the few readers I have in other countries can relate as they have special national holidays as well. 

It is an odd year for us as we've done most of our celebrating already. My city's fireworks were a week ago and we had our family meal on Saturday as the kids had other places to be today. I don't mind that this will be a quiet, unscheduled day, it gives me time to reflect.

Without corn to husk, watermelon to carve, beans to bake, potato or macaroni salad to prepare, sparklers to supervise, runs between kitchen and grill (we all know male grill masters don't do their own running) and not a ton of pans to soak and dishes to wash, I may truly be experiencing a personal Independence Day!